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October Lecture

RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT

By Ayodeji Samuel Akindulu
Lead Strategist Beyond Int'l
Lecture date: October 13, 2018.
Kaduna South


Topic: RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT

we need to understand what relationship is and why relationship because it takes two (2) to tangle.


Relationship is not just for one person  ie. Your vision is too big for only you to handle, you need people.

Like i said last week on Purpose and Value Class, we are created not to be independent but interdependent also we have relationships and we have meaningful relationships.

For you to have a meaningful relationship, you must discover your purpose and have a vision because you don't need everybody,
you only need the people that alligns with your purpose, vision and passion.

So every relationship you enter into, you need to define it for the relationship to be meaningful, individuals involved must also learn how to give off their-selfless services and die to their-self.



Just like flowers, you need to nurture them by giving water , punning etc consistently.
People will come and only see the fine flowers, acknowledge and allign, not knowing what you have been through to keep the flowers this is the major reason for you to understand that, if he or she is the right relationship to take you to your desired destination, you must embrace FORGIVENESS at any point in time
she/he will disappoint you, he/she will mess you up sometimes but you have got to understand someone else is managing your mess and shortcomings too.

You can't see youself, someone-else sees you
Many of us have lost valuable relationships in the past just because he or she offends us, he /she should apologise and for years we lost touch.

Learn to not loose touch of people that add value to you, these are destiny helpers irrespective of the circumstances
let me go flexible, the sacrifice might be attending their weddings, birthdays, standing for them when they are ill, attending their children or family occasion, sending them messages of love, giving them sense of belonging.

Listen, its a price, if its easy, its not a sacrifice you need to get out of the shores of, you know me i don't visit people, you should know me for the.

If you can't change then you can't change people so you loose touch of that relationship.

let me go scripture wise for those that need this: 

Adam needed an Eve
David needed a Jonathan
Modecai needed an Esther in the Palace
Joseph needed the kingguard to speak on his behalf.

So who ever says, me i don't want insult oo, i will keep to myself is literarily saying I don't want to go far period,
So take note of this key words.      #purpose# vision#passion#Sacrifice#Forgiveness.

So nothing is for free, for every relationship you need and want to sustain, you must pay the price
Anything that has value must be PROTECTED, PRESERVED and PUT TO USE.

Thanks.

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